Getting the Conversation Started

Talking to your loved one about the possibility of moving into an assisted living community may seem like an impossible task. It is common to feel uncomfortable when suggesting to someone that they may need assistance while performing daily tasks or activities. Unfortunately, even though it may be an uncomfortable topic, getting assisted living help is probably not a conclusion that your loved one will reach on their own. Here are a few tips to help you approach the conversation in a way that's both beneficial to you and your loved one:


Start the conversation early: You do not want your loved one to feel as if you are forcing them to move tomorrow. Begin talking about the possibility of moving into an assisted living community while it is still off in the distance. This will help them feel like it is less of an ambush, as well as give them some time to come to terms with the idea.

Do research: Having the information and facts about a few local assisted living facilities can help you explain what your loved one will gain if they moved. You can list the positives, as well as the negatives, of each facility. By simply relaying the facts, you can help dispel a few of the negative connotations that your loved one might associate with assisted living.

Keep it private: Your initial conversation should be held in a comfortable, private setting. If you would like another family member or two present, this is okay. However, try to minimize the number of people. You do not want your loved one to feel embarrassed or threatened in any way. By keeping the initial conversation private, they may feel more open to hearing about a possible assisted living move.

Focus on the positives: When your loved one hears the phrase “assisted living community,” there is a good chance that it conjures up all sorts of negative imagery. This is why it is important to focus on the positive aspects that this change in lifestyle will bring. Talk about the services, the social opportunities, and the security. Explain to them how the move will impact their life in a positive way.


If you or your loved one want to know more details about assisted living, feel free to give us a call. We'd love to help in any way that we can.